Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Reflections On My Strengths

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Have you ever sat and tried to make a list of your strengths? I have when I was working as it relates to my job. At the time, it was easy because I had amazing managers who TOLD me how good I was at my job and why. I just went back to my annual reviews and development conversations and pulled from that. Since leaving the corporate world, I have lost that bit of myself. The area in life I gained the most confidence from (without realizing it) was my career.

Now, as a mom, I get lots of complaints (from my kids and my spouse), but not much positive feedback. I take too long making food/drinks, I don't play with them enough, I don't disciple them enough or the right way, the list goes on.

As a wife, the only thing I can say for sure is that he wants more sex. [insert eye roll here] So apparently, I'm not very good at the wife thing either.

As a small business owner, I depend heavily on my husband/automotive technician to do estimates and invoicing correctly. For whatever reason (kids in later years maybe?), I can't seem to retain the new information I'm taking in about this business. Not enough to make him happy anyway.

As a blogger, a few people enjoy my blog and tell me so (yay!), but I'm not making any money at it so I feel like a failure.

Perhaps you can identify with me. The loss of positive feedback and the overload of negative has hurt my inner self. I'm frustrated, and overwhelmed, and frankly at a loss of what to do about it.

Que Dandelion Tribe, one of the newer blogs I've found and love. On October 5, they posted One Page of Wonder. Please read it in full and subscribe to their blog if you so desire, but basically, it was a challenge to hand write my strengths (no "buts" or "excepts" allowed). I've accepted the challenge and my results are below. I did handwrite them first, then transferred them here - promise!

Persistent (aka stubborn) - I don't give up easily on anything or anyone. This also means I'm loyal.

Dependable/Capable - I get things done especially when the tasks are specific and clearly communicated.

Organized - Given the right tools/bins/etc. I can Marie Kondo the heck out of just about any mess. And I like it!!

Understanding - We never know what someone else is going through. I try to remember everyone has their own perspective that is valid and may not match mine. 

Singer - I sing well!

Child of God - He calls me His princess. I am loved and always have someone to turn to in dark times.

There you have it! My piece of paper was small, what an I say?

I encourage you to do this little exercise for yourself, and like Carrianne said in her post, keep it where you can refer to it when needed.

Remember folks. God loves every single one of us and made us each with unique traits and characteristics that make us so, so special. If you can't see any strengths in yourself, ask someone who loves you and start with their observations. Then build on it. YOU ARE SPECIAL, AND...

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son. That whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting life." John 3:16


Friday, September 20, 2019

Reflections On The Hardest Job I Ever Had by LA Gilbert

The Hardest Job I've Ever Had - Stay-at-Home Dad: Raising Schoolkids - A Memoir was written by a Twitter friend of mine, LA Gilbert. He reached out many months ago to see who would be willing to read a review copy and help get the word out about this book. I jumped on the chance to read a stay-at-home dad's perspective. It was well worth the wait!

From the very first sentence, I related to Gilbert's writing. It's like a conversation with a fellow parent. Acknowledging the difficulties and the fact that those difficulties do not outweigh our love for our children, he shares a "day in the life" style memoir. He explores parental confusion, guilt, and all the other emotions that come with being a stay-at-home parent as he takes you through his days and the associated tasks. It may sound tedious BUT I think that it works because that is how life is for a SAHP. Each day is sort of the same thing over and over, but maybe with different levels of chaos inserted by the kids and life. He even shares the tips that help him make it through it all with a little bit of sanity still intact.

Like me, he needs to write/talk through the chaos that comes with kids in order to process it all. And there is a lot to process when your children are your "job" 24/7. Parents (especially the stay-at-home variety) will connect well with this book. The parent who gets to go to a place of employment while the other stays home will get some perspective from reading this book. Truly, one can not KNOW what it is like from a day with the kids here or there. To do it essentially all day every day is nearly indescribable, but Lance does a very good job of sharing the many aspects of stay-at-home parenting. Actually, anyone curious about stay-at-home parenting will enjoy reading The Hardest Job I've Ever Had

About The Author
LA Gilbert is an Amazon best-selling author (in a different genre) and stay-at-home dad. After two decades in Human Resources and Recruitment, he decided to look after his three daughters full time while his wife continued to work. He thought that being home with the kids would give him more time to focus on adapting his book into a screenplay but soon realized that the job of a home-parent was no cakewalk. He couldn't find the time or muster the energy to focus on a screenplay. It became apparent that he was meant to put that project on hold and instead write about the inner and outer worlds of a SAHP (stay-at-home parent). Although originally from Boston, Massachusetts, Lance has been in New Zealand for almost ten years. He lives with his wife, aforementioned three daughters, and an incredibly lazy cat who watches him toil away on monotonous domestic work without ever offering to help.